How to manage employees who are grieving

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When an employee experiences the death of a family member or close friend, it’s tempting for supervisors to take a hands-off approach to the em­­ployee’s grief.

Maybe the manager feels uncomfortable, wants to avoid inadvertent insensi­­tiv­­ity … or just doesn’t know what to say.  

However, silently waiting for the em­­ployee’s emotional recovery isn’t the best strategy. It can lead to reduced morale, reduced productivity and em­­ployees feeling that their managers don’t care about them as people.

Effective supervisors understand that grief is a mental health issue that must be gently confronted. Take the following four steps to sensitively manage grieving employees and their impact on co-workers.

After learning of the loss

Immediately show genuine sympathy and support. Don’t discuss job responsibilities; it can be perceived as insensitive and increase emotional distress.

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Steve Grissom February 4, 2012 at 5:52 pm

Another very practical and helpful idea is to recommend a GriefShare support group to your employee. We have an international network of more than 9,000 sites equipped to offer these groups. To find the nearest one, search our database at http://www.griefshare.org

Steve Grissom
Founder
GriefShare

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donna February 4, 2012 at 9:35 am

I must agree with susan, I lost my husband 3 yrs ago aged 40 and i still grieve for him. I had no support from my bosses and even had to phone them to ask when I should return to work. I returned to work two weeks after his passing but i now know it was far to soon. almost all my work colleagues ignored me, with the exception of a couple.
now at work I feel like i can’t talk about my loss because i can feel they are thinking, here she goes again, she should be over it.
i agree there are no stages to grief. its all to do with the individual and its an insult to anyone that has lost someone.

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Sympathy February 4, 2012 at 8:43 am

Can’t agree more… you are spot on with your insights on grief.

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Susan Fuller February 3, 2012 at 3:25 pm

Thank you for addressing this issue but I’d like to clarify some points. One there is no such thing as the stages of grief…they are nothing more than a cultural cliché. The whole idea does a tremendous disservice to people who are grieving and end up feeling like they’re not grieving properly because they’re not following the stages.

The other point is that grief does take weeks and months and even years. Suggesting that it’s only months is just plain inaccurate.

You might be interested in my book on grief, ‘How to Survive Your Grief When Someone You Love Has Died.’

Susan Fuller
http://www.surviveyourgrief.com

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