What kind of impression do you leave on new people? Take these steps to learn how people perceive you and to correct misperceptions:
Revisit comments you’ve heard from your past. What praise have you heard from family, friends, co-workers and clients? What complaints? Look for patterns that signal specific qualities about you that people notice first and most.
Listen. How do people describe or introduce you to others? What compliments do people use when they speak about you?
Talk to people you trust. Ask your spouse, other family member or close friend to provide candid feedback about how they think other people perceive you and why they think that way. Just be sure to have a thick skin. Negative feedback is tough to hear, but remember that it offers you real value because you can pinpoint and correct flaws.