Gossip and jealousy cause resentment and anger in the office. Art Markman of Fast Company offers tips to get past it and return to making thoughtful workplace decisions.
Know what you are feeling. Anger evolved as a physical response to perceived threats and attacks on our goals. That response is largely counterproductive for nearly all work-related issues today, so you need other options.
Let it go. “Forgiveness” is often easier to say than to do, but it lets you focus your energy elsewhere. It doesn’t mean fully restored trust; it just means you’re not embracing anger.
Embrace space. Out of sight is out of mind, so if you can get some distance from the source of your anger, next thing you know it might be gone.
Look past your emotions. Anger often leads to a narrow view: a single cause, an “obvious” solution. It’s important to step back and consider other viewpoints and options, to hopefully feel better about the situation if not the person you’re upset with.
— Adapted from “How To Coach Your Brain To Stop Being Mad At Someone,” Art Markman, Fast Company.