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You’re their boss, not their friend

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A new Gallup poll reveals that millennials want a “holistic relationship” with their supervisors. Meaning they want the boss to ask about their weekends.

Red flag #1: For many leaders, this approach would be inauthentic. It’s not that bosses don’t care about employees. It’s that everybody is there to do a job.

Red flag #2: An employee who tells a leader, “You’re one of my best friends” may induce panic. True friends don’t discipline or fire friends, but bosses can.

Red flag #3: Employees who describe their weekends might be doing themselves no favors. A “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy may work better.

“So, to everyone who works for me: apologies in advance if I don’t ask what you did on Saturday,” explains a publishing executive. “Really, it’s not that I don’t care. I just don’t think that’s what we came here for.”

— Adapted from “There’s a difference between a boss and a friend,” Kristin van Ogtrop, Time.

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