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Question: “It was suggested during my performance review that I don’t attend enough office social events like happy hours or volunteer days, and that I keep to myself too much in general. Is this a valid criticism, or is my employer overstepping the bounds of how I should be judged at work?”    – Christopher H., Facilities Assistant

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Rick July 5, 2017 at 12:55 am

If it’s off the clock, and on your time then it’s none of their business if they are not paying you to be there, or paying for the drinks and food. Your personal time does not belong to them. Of course this is all morally speaking. Unfortunately, work environments often put a skewed definition on a good “team player”.

Attend work related social functions if:

1. You enjoy the events and the people
2. Want to network and a means to climb the ladder — sorry but it’s true
3. Afraid of what people may think if you don’t attend.

However, don’t bother attending if…

1. You work in a toxic work environment. Not attending might be a great way to silently protest.
2. Been passed over for promotions time and time again despite your best work. They won’t notice you’re not there anyway.
3. You think you’ll have a rotten time because you probably will.
4. If it’s disingenuous like going to a retirement party for someone you really don’t know.
5. You have more important things in life like looking after your kids after work, or that arduous 45 minute commute home.
6. You have pretty good job security and they can’t really touch you for something that is not performance related.

If they’re going to yank you by the leash then just yank their chain back and tell them you would love to attend but you have been diagnosed with social anxiety disorder and get panic attacks in crowded environments. If they want a doctor’s note then you can provide one…they won’t ask for them. They won’t touch such a hot topic like anxiety disorder since it’s becoming more protected under employee rights.


Mimi June 13, 2017 at 8:21 pm

This happen to me too, supervisor actually put in my performance evaluation “she will attend social events and personal life events” whike knowing that i dont attend certain parties for religious reason and that im shy is another reason..this was submitted to human resource…is this legal???


tomana May 22, 2017 at 2:37 pm

All the during and after work hours of ‘socializing’ are, IMHO, just an excuse for covering up the real inner issue, namely, “Am I in right standing with the Creator”. The holy bible says Christ (who was God come in the flesh) did not trust himself to any person because he knew what was inside of them (the Creator knows these things). Yet, people (at work or otherwise) get angry at you if you don’t ‘open up’ to them or if you don’t do Facebook or send hash-tags, etc. There’s a saying that goes like this, “You don’t shake hands with the devil.” but seems today many don’t mind lying in bed with him


Rachel July 4, 2017 at 1:20 pm

Oh, **** off you God Bothering arsehole.


joseph July 16, 2017 at 9:47 am

Thank you for my first smile of the day Rachel. :)


Laura macaloney April 27, 2017 at 10:42 pm

I am very outgoing. I have a lot of friends, I have been in the corporate world for 36 years and for most of my working life I have opted not to socialize with my colleagues. I have had many bad experiences with people so I would rather not socialize. I am pleasant to everyone at work. I help everyone all the time but I refuse to attend group events. I can’t stand the cliques. I have been excluded on many occasions so I just keep to myself.


Mary August 17, 2016 at 9:35 pm

Life is too short to do anything you don’t want to do. Be the best employee you can be…but stay home on your time if you want to.


Edward Hurtado February 17, 2016 at 4:23 pm

You all sound like great workers and awesome people, and my advice and what is helping me is that I study the bible on my breaks read Proverbs chapter 1-7. I try not to be close to any but only God for now , which is who we really have left when no one is there and we can all gain wisdom and knowledge about life, live stress free and really feel for once cared for..

Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind. Do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; reverently fear and worship the Lord and turn [entirely] away from evil. [Prov. 8:13.] For whom the Lord loves He corrects, even as a father corrects the son in whom he delights.
Proverbs 3:5-7, 12 . You are all in my prayers and may God be with each and everyone of you – One of gods followers none religion related


AB February 26, 2016 at 12:41 pm

Oh do **** off.


Marty McDee April 12, 2016 at 6:30 am



James September 6, 2017 at 5:37 pm

You are no better or any less annoying than the above poster – seriously, relax.


Lydia January 31, 2017 at 8:10 am



My Time Is My Time December 31, 2014 at 6:31 pm

I spend enough time at work without being forced to attend some stupid “retreat” on my own time.


Billia April 4, 2014 at 8:23 pm

Lol so much petty drama. Social events are optional and for those who are inverts (like myself) we tend to keep to ourselves. The reason why we keep to ourselves is not because we are anti-social, we just like to avoid all the **** that people have a tendency to bring or may even, big crowds might be a turn off. I can see on the other hand though that the employeer wants an employee to become more ‘engaged’ with the job, but it’s not a requirement. Social events are just that, their social-events. Their ‘time-off’ events where others chat with other workers and such. Unless your position is a position that requires it, I wouldn’t think much about it. On the other hand, social-events can be used to possibly connect to other people. You don’t have to attend every-single event though, as we all have a life outside the office.


AB February 26, 2016 at 12:42 pm

Their? Twice? Really?


ABSUCKS August 16, 2016 at 4:10 pm

It was only used incorrectly one time.


AB September 6, 2016 at 6:12 pm

Nope. Both times the intent was “they are / they’re”.


OnlyMe December 14, 2016 at 5:37 pm

Seriously someone needs to get a life

r November 13, 2016 at 7:54 am

Wow, are you ok AB? I think you may need mental support. You sound like a complete sad ******* prick. ‘Their’ was used correctly in this paragraph. ‘Their’ as in ‘belonging to’ could also be construed as ‘staffs’ social events’. Weird ****. Hope you’ve got your mind sorted.


AB May 14, 2017 at 3:57 pm

“Their ‘time-off’ events where others chat with other workers and such.”

– Nope, still “they are”. But something tells me an inability to recognise basic spelling errors isn’t your only personal defect. Muppet.


James September 6, 2017 at 5:34 pm

You are one miserable *******.


r November 13, 2016 at 8:08 am

I worked with a bunch of people I couldn’t stand, but it got me onto the path I needed to be on, so I’m grateful for that. The cost was tolerating them. Never did anything social with them unless it was within work hours. Anxious bunch and I figure if I genuiniely don’t like someone, colleague or not, they’re not going to poison my environment more than is necessary. Your boss is out of order and maybe you should tell the to pick up a book such as ‘ThePower of Introverts’ to educate themselves a little about different personality types. Bottom line, your own time is precious and up to you to decide how to spend it. As long as you play the game within office hours and get your work done (tolerate the colleagues as much as you have to), you can walk away at closing time knowing that you’r not paid to do anything else. I wish these supevisors would get pulled up about this. It can really be unhealthy to force people into social situations. We spend a whole day, 5 days a week with people we often wouldn’t want to meet for a dinenr given the choice, and then we’re told to spend more unpaid time with them. **** that. No, stick to your guns, and tell you bosses to have some respect for the personal lives of staff, to keep their noses out of your personal business, and not to raise soething which isn’t an issue again. Frankly, too much of forcing you into this stupid ‘team building’ **** is justification to report them to HR.


JB November 22, 2016 at 1:37 pm

Extremely well said.


AB May 14, 2017 at 3:59 pm


Christ, I hope that was a joke.


Diane December 13, 2012 at 7:47 am

I am an introvert too and I don’t go to any of the work social events that I consider to be on my time, whether they be after hours or during the day, like a lunch, that isn’t a working lunch. I feel awkward and drained in groups and I need time alone. I know that I’ve been criticized for being antisocial, but I will take the criticism.
Everyone is social in his or her own way. I find this lack of understanding of people who are introverts or how choose to be private as a lack of respect for those people as individuals and as a lack of respect for diversity.


Nicole Michelle June 23, 2015 at 6:07 pm

I’m curious, because I am the same way – I feel exhausted socializing outside of work (whether it’s a lunch or a picnic or a dinner) and avoid socializing outside of work like the plague. But what do you tell people when they ask you why you don’t come? I say time and time again that I’m just not that comfortable at these types of things and it isn’t enough for people. Maybe I’m not saying the right thing?


Bill October 18, 2016 at 5:47 pm

I know this comment is rather dated, but I’m getting back into the workforce after a period of unemployment, and I really resent this aspect of the workplace.

To me, one big reason we all find this stuff draining is because of the violation of our boundaries.

You say that your reasons “aren’t enough for people,” and that perhaps you “are not saying the right thing.”

The REAL issue is that you politely said “No, thank you,” and people are telling you that “No” is not a good enough reason. No WONDER you don’t want to be around them. And no wonder they have to pressure coworkers to be their friends…no one will voluntarily socialize with someone like that.


Susan April 6, 2017 at 9:18 pm

This is me to a tee! Girls at work don’t like me and I am in a room by myself they are all in a room of 4. Never included in things, so my reasoning on how to deal with this, be happy go into work, do my work and go home .


Jw December 11, 2016 at 10:15 am

I don’t attend social events either holiday parties, so on. Both my step kids work at same place as I do. I’m very private person as they are social butterflys . They can’t seem to understand all I say is I spend 50 hrs a week at work I do not want to see them outside of work.


Fred March 16, 2017 at 11:50 pm

I never attend work socials,whether during or after the work day. I am an introvert who is a good worker and I go to work to work. I am the only male in an all female corporate department. Getting along with others is no problem and I find that I am well liked. We have tickets to sporting events, end of year boat rides and office parties but I have either sat at my desk or been off of work. No one has said anything to me and I like that . During all of this I have received my raise and my promotion. My job is an analytical one where I assist a team. Will this eventually hurt me?


Maggie November 9, 2012 at 9:16 am

well said.
while I dont beleive your work performance should be judged on your availability for social activities, we are all humans and inherently rely on social bonds to advance. synergy. And to beleive a company should pay you to socialize is pretty Scroogey of you. That being said, to each their own.
I wonder though… do you have fun at work and with your colleagues, or do you just go throught the motions for a paycheck?
engage, have fun, people base 60% of their reasons for promoting or hiring based on social skills and the work day goes faster when you have fun. not rocket science.


ren October 19, 2016 at 9:00 pm

I know this is an old response to the article/question, but just for other people who read this more recently and especially for the types of people this question is more so directed at (i.e. extroverts and others who have a problem with lack of socializing at work from some):

“…we are all human beings and rely on social bonds to advance.”

I see responses like this all the time. To me, it doesn’t answer the question or do any clarifying whatsoever for people who would rather have time to themselves or just go to work, do their hours and then go home. This is basically saying “well, we’re all naturally like this” to people who are…well, not quite like this. What sense does this make? I mean, we might all be social beings, but we’re definitely not social beings to the same degrees and in the same ways.

“…to beleive a company should pay you to socialize is pretty Scroogey of you.”/”…do you have fun at work and with your colleagues, or do you just go throught the motions for a paycheck?”

See, the thing is, in and of itself, work is really about WORK. It’s not about coming and having fun. Plus, the majority of people either don’t like their job or don’t like what they do for a living. So, essentially, we’re being paid BECAUSE employers need people to come do things that aren’t fun or likeable. It’s not like going to a party or concert. Think about it, people who do volunteer work are doing something they want to do. They’re totally signing up for it just because they want to do it, not to get anything out of it, with very few exceptions–maybe school credit, maybe to learn something…and even then, it’s a tradeoff, once again, to do something you’d probably rather not be doing to get something you need or want.

“engage, have fun…”
You have no idea what’s fun to any individual, especially to people whom you don’t know that well. Socializing with co-workers may be fun to you, but just because that person doesn’t want to do the same doesn’t mean they’re refusing to have fun. To some people, reading is fun; to many, it’s not. “not rocket science.” I get sick of extroverts telling people to do stuff they like, assuming those same things would make other people happy if they’d just choose to do those things, too.

Work is a paycheck for me and other people, nothing more, always will be that way. Just because a lot of employers want to base promotions on being an extrovert doesn’t make it right. Anyone who doesn’t want to play that game and is willing to forego promotions or whatever for their own pleasure, it’s their choice and right.


Lil February 4, 2017 at 5:15 am

Very well said. Actually I am a huge extrovert with a number of social activities a day, however ! I don’t like to socialise with colleagues and detest team building FAKE events. I choose who to socialise with and I believe that the employer should respect my personal time as much as I respect their time when they pay me to work and don’t force them during those times what to do. Forcing to socialise should be a work crime as that harms human rights! If people choose to socialise, brilliant, if they choose not to- it HAS to be respected!


NonAdmin August 6, 2012 at 8:17 am

I have to say that, for me at least, I know that there is pretty much no opportunity for advancement or any other such benefit for me so I don’t feel that there is any benefit or that I should have to spend my own personal unpaid time at these functions. Our organization doesn’t give raises, promotions or any other such very often so many of us have really become soured on such experiences. It is nice to get to know the staff that are not in our area but to me those experiences could easily take place during business hours! And before anyone goes back to the should check before you take a job statement – I was led to believe that those things were possible before I started. Now 12+ years later I’ve moved departments but never been given a performance based raise – only cost of living and twice for taking on more work because they felt they had to – and now feel that I can’t find a position paying this well with this good of benefits in our area. So, yes that is a plus but still…


Mary Ellen August 5, 2012 at 9:35 pm

I can certainly understand why some folks feel this way, but I’ll be the voice of dissent here.

If you never participate in social activities with your coworkers, you are seriously limiting your career options. Those kinds of connections are how people find out about opportunities for promotion, cool projects, etc. Someone who thinks they shouldn’t have to socialize with their coworkers unless they are paid to is probably not going to bother networking with other professionals either, I’m assuming — which only compounds the problem.

That said, expectations about level of socialization outside of the office vary so widely that I think it’s important to examine this part of the culture before you even take a job. Chances are you can find a good fit that matches your lifestyle.


Answer to old answer May 25, 2017 at 2:54 pm

You are wrong. I work in a very social work place. I talk to my coworkers, I laugh and joke with them, but I am also very protective of my private life and time outside work. I have attended a handful of work events and they always end up being annoying gossip and drink fests. So I stopped. I even booked a day off on my staff appreciation day so that I could spend it at home relaxing instead. Life is way too short to do things you don’t want to do. If you want to attend work events, great. If you don’t, why on earth would you. I am too old to do things I don’t want to do. It’s the benefit of being an adult. As well, for your information, I have been promoted to consecutively higher paying and higher level position since I stopped socializing as much. The head of my department actually told me, “You should never worry what people think of you…that is what makes a successful employee.” So basically, you’re wrong.


AA August 11, 2017 at 2:13 pm

Sorry, but I am going to have to disagree with you greatly here.

Not being social at work will certainly hurt your career opportunities. Or at the very least, not being social will limit your career advancement opportunities. I say this as someone with severe social anxiety. I absolutely cannot small talk with any fellow coworkers about anything that is not work related. When people ask me a question in the breakroom near the coffeepot, I can only respond in one word answers. I keep to myself. I have headphones on when I am working on projects. I constantly overhear people talking about their weekend or on some project that they are working on. And the thing is, even if I am very knowledgeable on some problem they are having, the fact that they didn’t come ask me directlymeans that my stupid self can’t muster up the courage to pipe up and offer my help. I am aware that my supervisor and peers think of me as a recluse. I know that when leadership opportunities arise, even though I may be the best technical qualified person, they are not going to give me a promotion.

You yourself said that you talk to and joke with your fellow coworkers. That action in itself means that you are social to some degree. You say that you attended a handful of social events. So you are not someone who is a social pariah at work. I don’t know why you are so quick and close-minded to dismiss an idea as wrong.

Finally, you say that you are too old to do things you don’t want to do, and that it’s the benefit of being an adult. Good for you. I am an adult as well, as probably are a lot of the readers here. And I can say that I don’t have your luxury of not doing things I don’t want to do. If it were up to me, I would work from home doing some online job in which I woudn’t have to socialize with anyone. However, having a family to support doesn’t allow me that luxury. Not everyone has the luxury you do of not doing anything they don’t want to do.


Gloria June 29, 2012 at 8:35 am

No, it is not a fair comment because you do have a life outside of the office. I went through this myself. My response was “reschedule the events during working hours. Then, I’ll attend. I’m here all day. Why should I take more time away from my family, my other job, whatever it is, to spend with co-workers? The same way you don’t want anything to interfere with my working days, my other responsibilities, whatever they may be, don’t want any interference from work. If I’m late for that, then I can be late for work. If I miss what I need to do after work, then I have to miss work the next day to make up for it. It’s that simple.” They of course didn’t reschedule. On top of that, I also had a long commute home with a sickly mother to care for. We’re here in the office anywhere from 8+ hours a day. How many hours do we get to spend with our family? We spend more time at work than we do with our family. There needs to be balance. Even if your single, you have other responsibilities you need to take care of that they don’t need to know. You have a life. That’s disrespectful on their part. If you’re an FA or in another sales position, I can see why networking is very important. You have to make time for that because that’s where your money is, in prospecting and partnering with other people to bring you more business. I’m very aware socializing at company events is important for career success; but, its important to respect people’s differences and needs. The ones who always attended, from what I found, did not have that strongest families and ended up divorced. Their values were far different from mine.


Glenda June 29, 2012 at 7:45 am

I actually have an “out” that most of my co-workers do not have. I live a little over an hour away from the office so no one questions my not attending functions after hours or on weekends. I am very close to several of my co-workers and we have a great working relationship but I have no desire to socialize with them on my own time. At the office I am one of the first to jump in and help when needed but don’t count on me after hours. I may attend a bridal shower or wedding, funeral, visit someone if they are in the hospital but those are all things I choose to do. I think after 18 years they know it is just not my thing to attend functions on my own time and I can’t think of any time when it has been created a problem.


Jet June 28, 2012 at 11:55 pm

I agree with those who have stated that unless the company is paying you for the time spent socializing or volunteering, it’s none of their business and has nothing to do with your performance evaluation — the employer is out of line.

I am one of those keep-to-myself types and have never attended our company’s potluck BBQs which are held after hours on one’s own time, nor do I get involved in the latest and greatest fundraising drive because these things are never-ending . . . there’s the food drive followed by the baby care package drive followed by the adopt this family drive, the silent auction to raise money for the Christmas adopt a family, followed by the – omigosh!! I opt out! I took this job to make a living to be able to pay my expenses and student loans, not to contribute to every cause under the face of the sun.

I am also not a big socializer. In fact, I avoid anything done in groups as much as possible because of really bad experiences in the past and because people in social situations in general drain me very quickly. One on one is fine, I’m good to go, but put me in a group and I’m counting the minutes until I can escape. I am just not a social creature. It doesn’t appeal to me.

I have been in my current job for 7 years and have been promoted twice. I am a top performer, recipient of the “Beyond the Call” award for saving the company money, very academic and research oriented and an MBA summa *** laude graduate, so killing my brain cells at a happy hour is not appealing. I am also hyper sensory sensitive so I can’t physically handle the noise, the lights, the glare, the TV always running in the background, etc., etc., etc., and most employees in this company speak their native tongue (definitely not English), which is a language that gets on my nerves as they apparently only have one volume setting – loud! These environmental factors overwhelm me pretty quickly and I get nauseous from too much stimuli, nor can I can hear anything anyone is saying anyhow with all the noise, so why bother?

Thus, I go to work, I do my job and do it very well, and I go home, my happy place! ;-)


Charity June 28, 2012 at 4:56 pm

When my company is hiring a sales rep or upper management, part of the interview process is going to happy hour with the owners and other sales rep’s because they want to make sure they all can get along outside the office or at conventions. On some level, I think this is just asking for trouble due to after a few cocktails people loosen up and questions are asked or comments are made that might possibly cross some legal hiring lines.


Mia June 26, 2012 at 5:52 pm

I concur with Chris. What we do on our personal time is our “business” (unless your moolighting as a criminal or writing and posting things publicly i.e, Facebook that could affect your job). and to “volunteer” means exactly that. I do not socialize with my co-workers after hours….I have a life and I have no need to combine them. I have a great working relationship with my colleagues and I enjoy what I do, and my review is based on my “work hour” performance not my social or family life. If you took a job that “required” you to volunteer or socialize after hours then it should not be an issue as you knew that it was part of the job when you accepted it.


Edward J. June 26, 2012 at 11:57 am

I agree that an employer can’t technically judge you on your attendance at something like a happy hour or extracurricular volunteer day, but I think we can all agree that people who keep to themselves excessively, and never participate in anything beyond the 9 to 5, tend not to be anyone’s absolute favorite in the office. At some point, being absent from every activity a company offers might be taken as a judgment on co-workers, and it would be tough for that not to have a subtle effect on how a supervisor perceives your happiness with, or good will toward, the people you work with. It’s only human nature.


Cathy June 21, 2012 at 5:09 pm

Socializing and Volunteering are two separtate topics. Being a productive member of your company will involve being professionally social at the office. Outside the office, is a personal choice and should have no bearing on performance review. Volunteering is good for everyone in the company for community benefit, within reason of course. It is especially important that management be involved as well as the general staff.


Mark June 21, 2012 at 4:52 pm

I feel that these are two different issues. Regarding attendance at after-hours events, like all others so far have mentioned, that truly shouldn’t matter whatsoever as part of an employee review. That’s your time, not company time, unless you are being paid for it. I would ask that this aspect be removed from my performance review, stating that federal wage & hour case law states that an employee cannot be evaluated negatively for not participating in volunteer events. Even a lawyer right out of law school would tell your employer that for this to be an evaluation factor, you must be paid. (In fact, I would ask for a copy of your review if you don’t already have one, which some states say you have a right to, in case you ever leave the company on bad terms and want to use this as evidence.) But, I have to agree with the employer on another issue. People keeping to themselves excessively, during business hours, does indeed have an effect on overall office morale and the general flow of the office. I think that aspect is a legitimate issue. (And this is coming from someone who is practically pathologically shy; I’ve had that issue – keeping to myself too much – in my review, and it caused me to make changes that I am glad I made.)


Joyce June 21, 2012 at 4:25 pm

I had this situation come up. I told my supervisor (he was the Pres of company) that I would be more than happy to attend any event if the company plans to pay for my time and expenses incurred for the event; otherwise I have other commitments outside the office that I needed to tend to. Also, at that time I was the only married person in the bunch of socializing people, so I also requested that he call my husband to explain to him why his wife is out drinking with a bunch of singles, and my doing so is more important than caring for family. Does your job as facilities asst, really require you to socializing outside the office? Needless to say, I never heard anything more about it, nor did it affect my performance reviews since I did do everything and then some when I was on the job with professionalism and integrity. Volunteer days, I may participate as part of my “community service”, as I believe in giving back to the community I live in, but who I socialize with outside the office is overstepping my employers boundries unless there is some benefit to the company, in which case I would expect some sort of compensation. I learned to be a performing extrovert for the job, but I am an introvert by nature, so I need my downtime to rejuvenate in order to “perform” for the job. That may be another selling point–that if you are expected to perform well on the job, you really need to be able to have time with real friends, family, or alone.


Julianna June 22, 2012 at 7:45 am

Where is the “like” button?


Judy June 22, 2012 at 11:07 am

I agree! This comment needs a “like” option!.


NonAdmin June 29, 2012 at 11:52 am

VERY WELL SAID!!! I had not even thought of that aspect of it. I am actually in this situation right now. I have a sunday evening event the night before I return from a week off and it is our year-end. Plus, that Monday morning is another event. I used my vacation, it’s return and the year-end to justify why I am not attending which is really true but I also just don’t want to spend a Sunday evening at a work function. Monday I would have to drive quite a ways in one direction then turn around and drive more than 30 miles in the opposite direction to work when it ends – what a lot of driving when I have a ton of work to get done!


Introv June 2, 2016 at 10:45 am

Awesome Awesome Awesome…. This response deserves an award….we perform for the Job, and that explains the energy drain after the day’s job!


Carolyn June 21, 2012 at 4:14 pm

Your performance review should be based on core competencies. Our corporate culture and competencies does require us to get out there. However, these things cannot be required or expected on your time. My family commitments prevent me from participating in happy hour or volunteer events on weekends, so I try to participate in other ways. I send out communications to the office on volunteer opportunities, fund raising events, etc. When it is possible, I participate because I know that building relationships with staff in other departments is good for my career.


Susan Swirsky June 21, 2012 at 4:13 pm

Absolutely your supervisor is overstepping the bounds of how you should be judged at work. Attending after hour social events does not and should not reflect on your work. They are completely separate. As for volunteer days, if your company requires, or strongly suggests, volunteer or community service, then I would say you should find something that interests you and do that. Some companies do require their employees to be active in their community.


Chris June 21, 2012 at 4:11 pm

Once I’m off the clock I quite frankly do not wish to socialize with my co-workers. I feel like that anything I do or say will be judged and cannot truly relax or have a good time. I do not drink like so many of them do so I do not enjoy this social functions. Otherwises on the clock I am an outstanding team player who always is the first to volunteer to help, plan or organize any event and have a great relationship with my co-workers. Employees should not be penalized for their desire to keep their personal life personal!


Marcia June 21, 2012 at 4:09 pm

As long as you are a “team player” during working hours, I don’t think that not participating in happy hour should play a part in your review. An occasional volunteer day for a charity for example doesn’t seem unreasonable however & would look good on a resume if you would change jobs. Volunteer days sounds like a good way to interact with other staff members.


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