Your Office Coach

Each Wednesday, nationally syndicated workplace columnist Marie G. McIntyre, Ph. D., answers your “in the trenches” workplace questions on everything from team-building to getting a raise to dealing with difficult people.

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Question:  "A supervisor who reports to me spends too much time talking with employees about their personal problems. Many of her staff members are young parents who carry a lot of ‘baggage.’ I understand that it can be hard to separate personal from professional, and I don’t want to seem unsympathetic. However, we don’t need an atmosphere where managers are viewed as counselors. I am struggling with the best way to tell this supervisor that she needs to focus on her management responsibilities. Any suggestions?"  —Not Dear Abby
Question: “A new woman in our office literally stinks. She wears nice clothes, but doesn’t shower or wash her hair.  She actually looks dirty. Our boss has talked with her twice about this problem. Each time he mentioned it, she cleaned up for a while, then went back to her old habits. Everyone is sick of smelling this disgusting odor every day. We are also worried about losing customers. How can we get this woman to clean up?”   —Holding My Nose
Question: “The president of our company speaks only to certain people. Several times a week, she comes into our office and says hello to two of my co-workers. She says nothing to the rest of us, even though we’re sitting right there. Since we all do the same job, we can’t help feeling offended when she ignores us. What do you think about this?”  —Overlooked
Question:  A co-worker told me that he brings a voice recorder to work to catch people talking behind his back.  He will tape it underneath a desk or hide it behind a picture. We used to be friends, but I now seem to be on the list of people that he hates. I’ve started searching my work area every morning to be sure his recorder isn’t there. Although this guy’s weird behavior makes me sick, I’m not sure what to do about it. Should I bring this to the attention of human resources?  —Nervous in Indiana
Question:  “My co-workers constantly ask me to assist them with simple problems.  Whenever they encounter any minor difficulty, they dump it on me. This makes it hard to finish my own work. My boss has been no help. When he talked to these people about handling their own problems, they told him that coming to me was faster. He immediately gave in and said we should just work it out amongst ourselves. I’ll never be able to focus on my job unless I end these interruptions.  How can I do that?”  —Totally Worn Out
Question: “My manager, ‘Sandra,’ recently yelled at me in front of all my co-workers because I took too long to find some information. Sandra is often rude to employees and even threw one person out of her office. She’s very moody, so we never know what to expect from day to day. I have considered reporting her to human resources, but I’m not sure if that would be a good idea. Sandra has been here for 25 years and gets along well with management. Also, I was previously given a verbal warning about my job performance, so I’m trying hard to be a model employee. However, if I ignore this incident, I’m afraid that Sandra will do it again. Any suggestions?  —Uncertain
Question:  “My boss is making strange comments that I’m not sure how to handle. Last week, he said that it is not unusual for people in my position to sleep with their managers. I was so shocked that I didn’t even respond. I just continued talking about work. Yesterday, he told me how much he loves me and that he will never let me quit my job. This seems kind of weird. What should I do?”  —Confused
Question:  “My manager never tells employees anything about what’s happening in the company.  We have to get our information from people in other departments. Sometimes he doesn’t even tell me things that may pertain to my job.  This lack of communication drives me crazy.  Although I have mentioned the problem numerous times, he still doesn’t communicate.  I have just about given up.  What else can I do?”  —Kept In the Dark
Question: “When interviewing for a job, is it okay to bring copies of performance reviews, customer service ratings, or complimentary emails? I have some very favorable comments that might impress an interviewer, but I’m not sure how this would be viewed. Also, I don’t know what would be considered ‘proprietary information’.”  — Puzzled
Question:  “In our office, everyone takes turns with the kitchen duties, including the owner of the business.  However, we recently got a new co-worker who refuses to do his tasks correctly. Whenever someone takes out the garbage, that person is supposed to put a new bag in the trash can, but this guy never replaces the bag. I tried to teach him about this nicely, but it didn’t do any good. Finally, after asking him numerous times, I got so fed up that I left the garbage container in his chair, hoping he would get the message.  He was quite upset about this, but he’s still not replacing the bag. I feel that he is being very inconsiderate to our group.  What else can I do?” — Furious