Am I being pushed out of this job?

Question: “I feel that a new administrator doesn’t think I am right for my current position even though I’ve been in it many years. I’ve never had a bad review until he came. He micromanages everything I do and is never happy with the results. I hate to leave the company and give up the current benefits and start over. Age is a factor as I am near retirement age. How should I handle this?”  -- Sandi


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11 Responses to "Am I being pushed out of this job?"

 
Lynne
said this on 23 Oct 2009 2:13:48 PM EDT
He may not be pushing you out. Some managers are a little more intense and it isn't necessarily a personal issue with you. You have to learn to adapt to him. Give him updates on where you are at with projects before he asks. When he gives you an assignment, ask for very specific instructions on what he is looking for and write it down in front of him. If you complete a project and he isn't happy, ask him what you could do differently in the future to meet his needs. As he gets to know you and learns that you are competent, he may back off, but you have to beat him to the punch by informing him of everything each step of the way. This may also bring to light areas where he wants you to move differently so that you don't complete the entire project and find out it wasn't what he wanted. Good luck!

 
Lorynn Mason
said this on 23 Oct 2009 2:26:39 PM EDT
Life is too short. Get out!

 
Anon
said this on 23 Oct 2009 2:30:43 PM EDT
Sounds like the Administrator I was working for who eventually pushed me right out of my position. Although I did many of the things Lynne suggested in her comments, the new Administrator just did not want me there and did everything in their power to get rid of me. They wanted their own person in the position and not someone with years of experience. I left, the Administrator is still a micro-manager and has gone through two assistants since my leaving.

 
Fellow Admin Asst
said this on 23 Oct 2009 2:45:34 PM EDT
Lynne is giving good advice. I worked for a micromanager and it is VERY frustrating. I started documenting every thing I did in my Outlook calendar and would print and show him if there was ever a question. At my first yearly review he started with, "let's see what you've done wrong this year." Right then I knew he was the problem, not me - he was exhausting. He was the biggest challenge I ever faced in the workplace.

On the other hand - it is illegal if they are really trying to push you out. You need to go to HR to start documenting situations you're encountering and you need to document details for yourself too. All you have to do is mention to HR what you've stated about not having problems in the past and that you're in fear of "agism" and they should straighten him out. Agism is a huge discrimination liability.

In the mean time maybe you can set a meeting with him to go over his expectations of what he wants out of you (which HE should have done being new) and maybe this will help communications between the two of you. Hang in there.

 
Sharon
said this on 23 Oct 2009 3:13:13 PM EDT
Lynne is right find out exactly what the manager's expectations are. This does not have to be confrontational but rather "let's get to know each other better so I can respond to your requests as needed." Keep a pleasant attitude and if things he does not respond, discuss with HR. Document what you discuss (I have found a follow up email restating what was expected or discussed with supervisor or HR is allows a good practice.) A good HR manager will check into the circumstances and get communication in place.

And as Lorynn notes--life is short--maybe there is something you wish you could be doing. Being unhappy in a position simply is not worth it--I moved on and am so glad I did--I was close to retirement as well but now have found new energy (and ways to cut back, the money just isn't that important and there are other ways to get the benefits.) Good luck.

 
Sharon
said this on 23 Oct 2009 3:19:02 PM EDT
OK, you can tell I have been on to something other than working as an assistant these days--I just realized I had a couple of errors! Please note the corrections: Keep a pleasant attitude and if he does not respond, discuss with HR. Document what you discuss (I have found a follow-up email restating what is expected or discussed with supervisor or HR is always a good practice.)

 
Mark
said this on 23 Oct 2009 3:40:27 PM EDT
People who think that the new supervisor might be trying to push you out might be way off base. Just because a new person starts giving someone bad reviews who previously received good ones doesn't mean there is an ulterior motive. It often means the employee is not measuring up to the expectations of the new supervisor. It can be as simple as this: A new boss means new expectations.

I say this because I have been in the reverse situation, with someone under me having said she never received a negative review from any supervisor in her life until I came aboard. But just because she was doing things the way other supervisors wanted her to do them, it didn't mean she was doing things the way I wanted her to do them. And yes, I can be a micromanager. However, we were able to solve the problems after months of my being disappointed in her performance by doing two things. First, we sat down and I explained what my expectations were, how I wanted her to do things, when I wanted her to do things, etc. Second, we had weekly meetings to discuss the good, the bad, and the ugly, so things were dealt with on a timely basis rather than being allowed to build up. Within weeks, the problem was gone.

Micromanagers are detailed oriented, so I would suggest sitting down with the person and going over, IN DETAIL, what they expect, what they like about what you are doing, and what they do not like about what you are doing. Document it in a follow-up e-mail to make sure you are both on the same page (excuse the pun).

 
Ilja Kraag
said this on 23 Oct 2009 3:45:32 PM EDT
The fact may be just that: he is new and you are not. Your new manager has his own expectations and may not care that his predecessor(s) where happy with the way you work. It may even be that your workstyle goes against his wishes.
Have a meeting and ask him what and how he wants you to assist him. Be as specific as possible. I made an interview list with questions as: do you want me to open your mail; do you want me to screen your calls; do you have certain people that you are always/never available for; do you like to meet daily/weekly/monthly; do you want daily/weekly status reports; do you like detail reports or globals. The more specific you can be, the more you have to defend yourself if he still keeps picking on you. If you can show that you have had no previous problems and good reviews, he will have a hard time selling the fact that you are not competent and/or willing to change. Especially when you can show how much effort and detail you have gone through to find out his wishes and wants. You may impress him after all. Good luck.

 
Des
said this on 26 Oct 2009 11:04:59 AM EDT
I agree with many of the previous posts. I think it's very important to document and communicate with your new manager. I hope everything works out.

 
Admin 123
said this on 30 Oct 2009 2:40:50 PM EDT
I have had the same similiar situation on two seperate occasions. The first time I was alot younger and it was the worst experience. I did find out in the end (after I left) that indeed the new manager wanted me out because she wanted to bring in her assistant from the job she had left. The second time, of course a different job, I requested a face to face, wrote all of my concerns down based on examples (facts) vs. emotion. I told my boss I would do the best that I could but it would take time to get to know each other, requested he clarify his mgmt technique, and was open to his questions. It was like an interview to figure out if we were the right fit for each other. He respected that in the long run and it worked out. I think bottom line is, life is too short. Many companies don't care about age, it's about your experience and hard work. The stress on your health is not worth the job, you can get another one but not another body.

 
Anon
said this on 13 Nov 2009 2:18:00 PM EDT
Mark & Lynne offer good advice, which you should follow if you can. However, your suspicions may be accurate, and that's why you have to document everything & bring in HR if necessary. Many years ago the company that I worked for changed Presidents. The new President wanted to have a new assistant and what he did was to take away the existing assistant's responsibilities and gave them to a younger woman. The existing assistant "took the hint" and left the company within 2 months thereafter. In this bad economy, it is exceptionally difficult for older workers to get a job unless they can be hired by a government agency (where they really enforce age discrimination). I would do everything possible to keep your job (especially if you like your work), and see if you and the your boss can figure out a way to work harmoniously.




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