Q. What's the proper procedure for a group of people approaching a closed door? If I (a female) arrive first, I usually open the door and hold it for others, but I notice that makes some people (particularly older men) uncomfortable.
A. We spend too much time worrying about who should go through the door first. The important thing is just to get through it!
If you hold the door for a man who is clearly embarrassed by it, rest easy in the knowledge that you won't see many more men like him. He's obviously of the "outgoing generation" of businessmen whose touches of chivalry are no longer the norm. Just be thankful you once knew a "real gentleman."
Of course, you can avoid this problem by simply not being the first person at the door. Let someone else be the first.
If you find yourself stuck with holding the door for what seems like an interminably long line of people, step away from the door and ...(register to read more)