The pressure to be liked at work can be frustrating and overwhelming, writes Katie Jansen, vice president of corporate marketing at AppLovin. But ultimately, trying to make everyone like you can make you less effective at your job.
Here’s what you gain when you let go of being liked in the workplace:
• Saying “no” stops being a problem. It’s a lot easier to say what you think when you aren’t worried about pleasing people. Steve Jobs believed avoiding direct communication to save someone’s feelings was actually selfish.
• You build confidence. Placing your focus on results shows others that you stand for certain opinions and values. It can also give you and your co-workers more confidence in the decisions you make because you’re surer of yourself.
• You’re more focused. Trying to please everyone can distract you from what matters. Your work can ultimately suffer because of an unrealistic need to be liked. Ultimately, focusing on your goals is better for business.
— Adapted from “3 Ways Your Career Gets Better When You Let Go Of Being Liked,” Katie Jansen, Entrepreneur.