Do you consistently judge others’ actions in the workplace? If you recognize yourself in any of the following scenarios, put down the gavel immediately and move toward acceptance.
- Your colleague’s meeting agenda contains the necessary topic items with timing, but you find it difficult to overlook the “garish” font and layout.
- Your supervisor shows up with new glasses and you immediately wonder if he grabbed the first pair he could find sans mirror.
- The newest assistant closed her email with an emoticon and you think, “Grow up!”
We show up in the workplace with well-formed opinions, beliefs and attitudes about everything. If your goal is to stay in the game and grow your career, best accept, rather than judge, others preferences and choices. Here’s why:
If you want to maximize your results, you must maximize your relationships. Even if you think you’ve masked your judgy eye-roll when a colleague suggests an approach different than your own, I’m going to suggest your stealth actions didn’t go unnoticed.
People usually can’t contain their opinions for long, so you up the chances of turning into a gossip. Smart, savvy people may listen to a gossip but they no longer trust the individual. People do business with people they trust.
Judgers come across as petty and narrow-minded. It’s too easy to make assumptions that others agree with our opinions. I remember witnessing a woman at a business conference talking about the inappropriateness of a tattoo given the room was filled with women over 40. My seatmate turned to me to reveal a tiny butterfly tattoo on her ankle.
Lastly, no one has time to listen to someone complain about subjects that aren’t focused on solutions.
When you choose acceptance, you get past the head and into the heart. You realize that people perform to the best of their own current beliefs and skill sets. It doesn’t mean you can’t pull aside the new assistant and address company protocol, but it does mean that you find a graceful way to guide her through the process.