Q: “Our human resources manager recently said I should consider seeing a therapist because I might be suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder. Last year was difficult because my husband lost his job, then was diagnosed with cancer. I was appalled by her suggestion and told her that she was completely out of line.
“A few weeks later, she emailed me to say that she felt we did not finish our conversation and was open to talking if I was interested. I did not reply, and now she will barely acknowledge me. I really don’t care, but it’s somewhat awkward because we work in a small company.” Insulted
A: Your HR manager should stop playing amateur psychologist. While she needs to advise you of any job-related concerns, your private life is none of her business. This woman either lacks professional training or simply has an intrusive personality.
Practically speaking, however, you probably don’t want her to become an adversary. HR folks may lack direct power, but they often have influence and can be very bad enemies. Try to reestablish a cordial, professional relationship which does not involve sharing any confidences.
If you find yourself in a stressful situation, here are some tips for saving your sanity: How to Stress Less at Work.