OK, so you know it’s not a leader’s job to be liked. Still, it is part of the job to convey to your team members that you care about them. Here’s a blog post that lays out tips from FBI behavioral expert Robin Dreeke on how to build rapport.
“Seek someone else’s thoughts and opinions without judging them.” What that means is listening and asking questions, not writing them off. “As soon as I hear something that I don’t necessarily agree with or understand,” he says, “instead of judging it my first reaction is, ‘Oh, that’s really fascinating. I never heard it in quite that way. Help me understand.’ ”