Feeling underappreciated can introduce bitterness into your work relationships, which will negatively affect your work. The lack of acknowledgment for your contribution can lead to bad feelings and an unwillingness to compromise when it comes to making decisions with a partner or co-workers, write Josh Baron and Rob Lachenauer of Banyan Family Business Advisors. The less you feel valued, the more likely it is for you to go on a job search, they write.
The good news is you don’t always have to find another job to improve your situation, but the bad news is you will have to confront your feelings and channel them into something constructive. If you’re feeling underappreciated, you’re probably not the only one. The energy you’re spending feeling upset is most likely keeping you from expressing appreciation for someone else, which is what you need to do to break free from the zero-sum game where only one person can win and one person loses.
Career demands can be taxing emotionally, physically and intellectually, making it easy to feel your efforts are being ignored and that you are too stressed to remember to acknowledge someone else’s efforts. But letting another person know you see all her hard work makes a huge difference.
Giving a little often means getting a little, and just a little can turn around a relationship and a business more quickly than you’d expect. Expressing the gratitude you feel for another person opens up space between you two for positivity and reciprocation.
— Adapted from “If You’re Feeling Unappreciated, Give Someone Else Credit,” Josh Baron and Rob Lachenauer, Harvard Business Review’s HBR Blog Network.