In his book Corporate Catalysts, author Dan Coughlin identifies 20tools—"different ways to influence the way other people think. They are very simple ideas; that's the point. Being a great leader is not complicated." Here's a sampling:
Act with integrity. "Do what you said you would do, do what you believe is the right thing to do, and always be honest."
Ask questions and listen. "Effective questions immediately involve the other person in the movement toward better results."
Provide an analogy that resonates. Get to know people as people, not just as workers— what interests them, moves them, makes them tick. Then frame your input around other people's special interests.
Make a bold statement. Coughlin calls this "one of the sexier leadership tools"—the kind of assertion (like Apollo 13's "Failure is not an option") that grabs the group's attention.
Model the desired behavior. "If you want the people in your group to listen better, really listen to them."
Step way out of your comfort zone. "What would be totally out of character for you to do that would catch people's attention and get them to think differently?"
Let them know about your weaknesses. "People will accept your input more if it comes across as something you learned from dealing with a past failure."
Ask what advice they would give to another person. "Usually, people find it easier to give others advice than to solve problems on their own. ... You can help the person get out of his own way and back into action. That's leadership."