As a manager, you know you're paid in part to oversee employees' performance. Just don't assume you need to boss people around for them to succeed. Beware of these signs of bossiness:
Issuing edicts. Overdosing on "I want" statements makes you appear like some petty dictator. Instead of declaring, "I want you to follow instructions" or "I want errorfree work," engage employees in a dialogue. Ask, "How can I help you follow instructions?" or "Any ideas on ways I can support your efforts to do error-free work?"
Assigning a never-ending litany of tasks. On Monday, you ask your team to put aside task A to focus on task B. On Wednesday, you add all-important task C. By Friday, you insist they find time to squeeze in tasks D and E. Stretch people too far and they'll snap.
Refusing to debate. Let employees challenge you if they're fair and diplomatic. Shutting down discussion stirs resentment.