Answer: Blaming you is easier for Carol than accepting the fact that she has disappointed her boss. To help her recognize that you played no part in this job swap, try making a direct and unambiguous statement. For example: “Carol, I know you’re upset about Dr. Smith switching our jobs, but I want to make it clear that I was just as shocked as you. I did not want the front desk position, but he gave me no choice. I just hope that his decision won’t ruin our working relationship.” If Carol seems determined to hang on to her anger, just continue to be friendly and helpful. Eventually, she may come around. Of course, considering that her transfer was triggered by poor , you probably shouldn’t expect miracles.
Do you feel betrayed by a co-worker? Perhaps these suggestions will help: Trust and Betrayal at Work.