Some marriages will make it, and some won’t. In these pressure-cooker days, marriage failure may be slightly up. Marriage expert Thomas Bradbury likens it to the treadmill stress tests used to screen cardiac patients.
“Some couples will pass the test,” says Bradbury. But the hardships will bring others’ weaknesses “into sharp relief.” To make it through the strain:
- Seek out help if you need it. Take a class on relationships, spend time alone together or see a therapist.
- Cut your partner some slack. Do you see him or her becoming overwhelmed? Do more. But don’t crow about how helpful you are.
- Make an effort to use gestures of support or phrases of affection. Remind yourself of why you fell in love.
— Adapted from “Extreme Child-Care Maneuvers,” Sue Shellenbarger, The Wall Street Journal.