Q. My boss is pressuring me to accept a big promotion, but it would mean relocating at a time when I strongly prefer to stay put. She says it would be good for my career to take the promotion, and that if I stay here I’ll lose any chances for real advancement. She also promises to make the move as painless as possible for me and to give me time to adjust. What should I do?
A. While your boss sounds well-intentioned, don’t expect her to make this decision for you or provide objective advice. It’s her job to get you to take the promotion. It’s your job to evaluate the situation, weigh your personal and professional goals and choose the most satisfying path.
If you’re happy where you live now and you don’t want to move, then you need to decide whether the promotion will offset your disappointment at having to relocate. Many managers get too caught up in what their bosses think and lose sight of their own power to direct their destiny. You need to separate what’s good for your career from what’s good for you.
Then choose: Take on a big promotion in a new locale or stay put and explore other options, such as seeking other jobs or launching your own business.