“I don’t understand why I can’t reach my goal.”
Sound familiar? Is there a gap that feels as big as the Grand Canyon between your aspirations and your accomplishments, between the dreams you want to achieve and the reality of your current circumstances? Do you think in terms of “someday,” “if only” and “maybe when”?
For example, do you talk to your co-workers or friends about advancing your skills, asking for flextime or even walking during your lunch hour but find yourself doing nothing? Do you want to change supervisors or departments, but when there’s an opening available, you don’t apply?
Why do we think one thing, say another and then do something else? It’s because we’re what I call out-of-alignment. There are inconsistencies between what we are thinking and saying, and what we are thinking and doing. “I will get started on that project tomorrow” and tomorrow becomes next week. “I’ll definitely be on time!” you assure yourself, and then you show up your usual 10 minutes late for the meeting.
If you are serious about achieving your desired life and lifestyle, and about becoming your best, you have to get your thoughts, words and actions into positive agreement. For example, what happens when your car is out of alignment? It starts veering into another lane, taking you off course. Even if you correct it by adjusting the steering wheel, it takes more energy and effort to keep the vehicle on the road. This is true for us, too.
Mohandas Gandhi said it best: “Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony.” And the first step to alignment is to climb back into the driver’s seat and take a look at your detailed map (your goals). Revisit why you want to go there in the first place.
If the reasons are still compelling, enable your GPS so you have clarity and direction. As you begin to move forward, notice when your mind, mouth and motions are out-of-alignment. In those moments, stop and reflect on your feelings. Ask yourself, “What’s really getting in my way?” If you’re honest, the answers are the key that unlocks the truth.