Marie's Answer: There's a lot of territory between tolerating Brenda and tossing her out. For starters, you need to give her some honest feedback and set clear expectations. That’s what good managers do:
* Explain to her: "Brenda, your friendly personality is a real strength, and I appreciate that. However, you’re spending too much time on personal conversations. This prevents other people from working and distracts our customers. I realize that this habit may be hard to break, so I'll tell you if I see it happening in the future."
* When you see Brenda monopolizing someone’s time, tactfully ask to speak with her privately and remind her about idle chatter.
* Respond to her money demands by calmly explaining that raises are given for improved performance, not difficult life situations. If Brenda says that she can earn more elsewhere, tell her that you’ll understand if she decides to pursue a better opportunity.
* Should Brenda fail to improve, you can always start searching for her replacement. You might find someone who won’t annoy your staff or alienate your customers.