Controlling co-workers

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Question: One of my co-workers (Co-Worker A) is a good employee and a hard worker. Another co-worker (Co-Worker B), who supports the department head, is very untrusting and controlling.  She seems to undermine everything that Co-Worker A does and intentionally tries to make Co-Worker A look bad to their superiors.  Co-Worker A is at the end of her rope!  I've tried to offer support and advice to Co-Worker A, but I'm out of suggestions.

Talking to Co-Worker B does not yield any results.  Any suggestions for Co-Worker A who does not want to leave her role but desperately needs help?  -- Anonymous


It sounds like your co-worker A needs to stand up for themselves with their manager in a costructive way. It also sounds like for yourself, you should stop getting involved in other peoples troubles. It may be adding to the problem, does co-worker B feel like...(register to read more)

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'mi October 31, 2009 at 4:25 pm

This sounds similar to a situation I have been involved in recently. Coworker a was my supervisor; however, she exhibited horrible behavior in the workplace (including: using the f-word on a regular basis, touching her breasts in front of me to “show me what real breasts look like,” and telling me our manager’s wife had a miscarraige (he allegedly told her this behind closed doors and she told me not to tell anyone). I finally was fed up with her when she went to him and told lies to have me reprimanded and written up. I was able to disprove all alegations she made against me. I explained her behavior and was questioned extensively, my side was coraborated by another coworker, and I was also asked to document everything and give it to our manager in a sealed envelope (I’m not sure why he wanted it sealed). Two months went by resulting in a two page memo that defined our roles and outlined how to proceed with future disputes. My coworker was seemingly demoted from being my supervisor to still being able to tell me what to do if our manager gave her the direction first. One month later and my coworker is still cursing, giving me projects without prior approval from our manager, and backstabbing me to our manager. How do I confront this person in a professional manner? I am considering recording our conversations in order to keep a concise record of what was said, then calling a meeting with our manager to confront her (so she cannot make any false allegations). I will keep the recordings private (transcribe the recordings). Although, I have considered telling my coworker “this conversation may be recorded,” to give her fair warning and to avoid any potential legal ramifications.

Could anyone offer advice on how I could confront this situation without putting my job on the line?


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