Question: “On her, my sister 'Jenna' was rated 'below expectations' because her boss said she took too long to complete a major project. However, this really wasn’t her fault. During that time, she had a lot of computer problems. Also, changes created some confusion, and her co-workers weren’t very cooperative. Now Jenna is on a three-month probation with a warning that her current project must be completed on time. It’s not clear what will happen if she doesn’t meet the deadline. I don’t think this is fair, because many things are beyond her control and she gets little cooperation from others. What do you think?”— Angry Sis
Marie’s Answer: I think you have only one side of the story. Here are some points to consider:
• When someone receives a reprimand, usually her first response is to point out other reasons for the problem. That’s human nature. But people who never see their own flaws continue to repeat the same ineffective behaviors.
• Jenna received a low rating because her project was late. Other factors may have contributed, but her boss clearly believes she was responsible. At this point, she should stop fretting about “fairness” and concentrate on meeting expectations.
• To get off probation, Jenna must focus like a laser on her upcoming project deadline. If unavoidable obstacles arise, she should tell her boss immediately. And she needs to do whatever it takes to get along with her co-workers.
By continuing to encourage your sister’s search for scapegoats, you are only perpetuating the problem. So instead of collaborating in her denial, try to help Jenna save her job.
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