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Question: “I have been fired from almost every job I have ever had. My friend says I’m just unlucky, because I seem to wind up in impossible situations that I can’t escape. I know that difficult people are everywhere, but I guess I haven’t learned how to properly navigate around the worst ones. I’ve tried the fight-back approach and the just-deal-with-it approach, but neither seems to work. Last time, I made a pre-emptive strike by complaining to human resources, but I still wound up on the losing end of the stick. I have been fired from five jobs in seven years. What would you recommend for someone like me?” — Nathan

Marie’s Answer: Getting fired five times in seven years is not bad luck. It’s a self-destructive pattern.  Consider these suggestions:

•    Whenever you experience the same problem repeatedly, it’s quite likely that you are the cause. Instead of continuing to blame “difficult” co-workers, you should take a long, hard look in the mirror. 

•    Apparently, you allow yourself to get emotionally "hooked" by certain types of people. When conflict results, management begins to view you as a liability. The solution lies in learning to control your reactions.

•    To identify your problem behaviors, review the events that preceded each termination. How did your actions make the situation worse? How could you have responded differently? 

•    If answering these questions is difficult, ask for feedback from managers, co-workers, friends or relatives. Listen to their comments without arguing. 

To salvage your career, you must become a stable, cooperative, undemanding employee. If you can’t make this change single-handedly, then you should seek professional counseling. 

For some clues about what really bothers bosses, see "Six Signs that You May Be "Hard to Manage".

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Ray Ban April 17, 2017 at 10:14 am

Here’s my response to this situation:

You’ve been fired multiple times…are these the same type of jobs? Maybe you should try to take some time and truly study a job that you truly are passionate about. Perhaps go to a university or college and find a field that you’re interested in. Whenever you’re working in something you really like, the chances of you staying there are extremely high. Believe me, I have a very good background in a certain field and still got laid off a couple of times. Why? Well, I’ll never know the answer from the horse’s mouth. The only thing I can assume is that I was being watched VERY closely and perhaps I started to show some disinterest due to the low pay rate and slow progression. If you’re working in corporate you have to understand that NO ONE is truly your “friend”. Everyone is there to do their best and progress within the company; they’ll do anything they can legally to progress. If that means throwing you under the bus so be it. A tip I learned from a professional in corporate is to keep corporate “friends” at the job and only there. If you have other endeavors, do not discuss or hint them to anyone. Clean your social media completely to leave no trace of anything that could harm your reputation. Two months in to my recent position I noticed a couple of strange accounts following me. They were managers and co-workers (I recommend putting your settings to private). Trust me, you want the company to believe your position is your sole occupation and that you have longevity.

I concur with Ashley (Sep 12th, 2013) as well. Sometimes a “normal” job isn’t made for everyone. If you feel like working a corporate job isn’t for you, pursue entrepreneurship. There are a couple colleagues of mine who became entrepreneurs and are making $300,000 plus. Now is this easy? No, you will definitely need to develop a strong team, build a strong network, and thoroughly study your field while at the same time being very innovative. Now that’s if you want to make the big bucks, however you can sustain yourself at a decent $40,000-60,000 range too. It’s a risk but it’s worth giving it a shot if you truly do not want to work for someone else. Opening a hair business, owning a small restaurant, opening up a liquor store, etc. You’ll be working almost 24/7 but you will be your own boss.

Take some time, think ,and truly evaluate yourself.
You need to ground yourself in your passion and field if you want to make it in this world.
Do not waste time and keep getting fired.

Best of luck to you

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Cro October 24, 2016 at 4:35 am

They made you site manager boss comes in and say dont bother with other contractors or what thete doing you just paint dont bother undercoating dont sand down frames just gloss ? I feel thats not right. your sacked welcome to the construction industry

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lee0302 January 28, 2016 at 1:05 pm

i just got in contact with a vocational rehabilitation center in hopes to figure this out. They provide counseling to rule out any mental illnes or to help you with mental problems and then also will help getting a job that best suits your personality.

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Ashley September 12, 2013 at 1:04 pm

This answer is complete horse shit. I’m so sick of people being put down because they just aren’t right for boring, meaningless, mundane jobs. Instead of trying to force everyone into this perfect little worker mold, how about we try to make people feel comfortable with who they are and help them find jobs that will best match their personalities?

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Annoynimous May 16, 2012 at 1:27 am

Question what can you do if your past job loss was do to something that was not completely within your control. Like a learning disability or ADD? This is a common problem for those like me that are lucky enough to have it. So, how can I be helped to keep a job I don’t really want to loose it? Is there help out there like job coaching or something like that? Thank you.

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